How do we moms cope when our children fight with their best friends?
How do we moms cope when the best friend's mom is our friend too?
I am the kind of mom who asks my child "So what did you do?" And "Why on earth would you fight with your best friend?" And "How are we going to fix this?" Well this week we have had the drama in our household and even though I do not believe that my son is an angel - which 10 year old boy is? I do know that this has been hard for him too as he is not really sure how to handle the situation with his best buddy who he has known since he was tiny!
So I dug deep into my parenting base and told him that while there is always 3 sides to every story - yours, mine and the truth - there is one universal thing I believe! If someone we care about is hurting, and we have in any way contributed to this, we have to be sorry for causing the pain! So we talked about feelings and emotions and hurt and pain and while I am not sure how much of it he really grasped he understood that friendships are tender and important and that we do what we can to make those around us comfortable to be with us! But not in a way that compromises who we are as people!
So when he bounded up to me the next day after school telling me "Mom we need to talk" the smile on his face speaking volumes, I was sure we had done something right. "Mom, I told him I was sorry I had hurt his feelings" and then "and mom he said sorry too, but I am not sure why. But we are all good! Can we have a play date tomorrow?"
And the universe was back on track for that moment!
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Friday, August 26, 2011
Sunday, March 27, 2011
Just another Manic Friday!
LI had such a crazy start!
Money for the school Swim-a-thon had to be in by TODAY - so I borrowed the money from my son (who hoards his cash at age 7) to pay the school. Money for the gardener - I borrowed from my hubby's wallet! Well it is his garden too!
Grade 2 Awards Assembly at the crack of dawn (only one cup of coffee under my belt) oh yes all dressed in green as the house colours for the other school is green - will get to that later! Camera in hand I watch the precious kids singing their hearts out waited as and the kids got their certificates . . . and waited and waited and waited . . . and my son will be getting his at the next assembly to be held next school term!
Off to school 2 for the inter house gala hence the need for the green get up! It is hot today! It is humid today! It rained last night so it is VERY humid today and we sit in the stands in the sun and it is . . . you got it HOT and HUMID and the sweat is pouring off us as my son partakes in his first senior primary school gala! He is in one race. It is race 4 which is wonderful but there are 42 races in the gala.
But he swam like I have never seen him swim before and not only did he win the leg of the relay he was in but his team won the race. I screamed like a lunatic, took 472664 photos and jumped up and down - I may not be let back into the school for galas again.
The next 38 races took about . . .OK I can't lie I left the school after 22 races and dashed home for a shower and a second cup of coffee - in the space where I live it is never too hot for coffee or soup!
The next port of call was the another school date- the Junior Primary dance and movement display - The school OT's have said that all kids will benefit from doing dance and movement and the music teacher has asked me to to make a DVD of the 300 little munchkins dancing on the school field! Remember that 300 kids = 600 parents and grannies and siblings who all want the best spot - and I am in that with the video cam! I am so busy I cant even find my little guy and eventually we manage the mommies, we dance, we record and we get to take out little ones home - only mine has a party so with a quick change in the classroom with his friend "Guarding the doors against GIRLS" I bundle mine off with a friend and I head to the next function . . .
The U10E cricket match at the big school - now this match was played at the same at as the SA vs NZ match and I cannot decide which was more exciting - the U10E's who lost 47 for 2 (sob) with my son being cleaned bowled for 0 or the SA game which knocked us out of the World Cup! Either way a wasted afternoon of cricket in the still hot and humid afternoon!
Luckily I have a wonderful friend who will bring my little one home from a party, and a friend who was at home needing to share her wine with me after I had rounded up the troops - that is how I managed to survive the crazy!
Did I mention that I have a sick husband?
Money for the school Swim-a-thon had to be in by TODAY - so I borrowed the money from my son (who hoards his cash at age 7) to pay the school. Money for the gardener - I borrowed from my hubby's wallet! Well it is his garden too!
Grade 2 Awards Assembly at the crack of dawn (only one cup of coffee under my belt) oh yes all dressed in green as the house colours for the other school is green - will get to that later! Camera in hand I watch the precious kids singing their hearts out waited as and the kids got their certificates . . . and waited and waited and waited . . . and my son will be getting his at the next assembly to be held next school term!
Off to school 2 for the inter house gala hence the need for the green get up! It is hot today! It is humid today! It rained last night so it is VERY humid today and we sit in the stands in the sun and it is . . . you got it HOT and HUMID and the sweat is pouring off us as my son partakes in his first senior primary school gala! He is in one race. It is race 4 which is wonderful but there are 42 races in the gala.
The next 38 races took about . . .OK I can't lie I left the school after 22 races and dashed home for a shower and a second cup of coffee - in the space where I live it is never too hot for coffee or soup!
The next port of call was the another school date- the Junior Primary dance and movement display - The school OT's have said that all kids will benefit from doing dance and movement and the music teacher has asked me to to make a DVD of the 300 little munchkins dancing on the school field! Remember that 300 kids = 600 parents and grannies and siblings who all want the best spot - and I am in that with the video cam! I am so busy I cant even find my little guy and eventually we manage the mommies, we dance, we record and we get to take out little ones home - only mine has a party so with a quick change in the classroom with his friend "Guarding the doors against GIRLS" I bundle mine off with a friend and I head to the next function . . .
The U10E cricket match at the big school - now this match was played at the same at as the SA vs NZ match and I cannot decide which was more exciting - the U10E's who lost 47 for 2 (sob) with my son being cleaned bowled for 0 or the SA game which knocked us out of the World Cup! Either way a wasted afternoon of cricket in the still hot and humid afternoon!
Luckily I have a wonderful friend who will bring my little one home from a party, and a friend who was at home needing to share her wine with me after I had rounded up the troops - that is how I managed to survive the crazy!
Did I mention that I have a sick husband?
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